How can I be sure I'm gay if I haven't had sex?
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« on: October 27, 2014, 09:51:47 pm »

It is possible to know you're gay even if you're a virgin or haven't had a same-sex physical relationship. Being gay isn't just about sex; it is about emotion. Just like straight people, gay people fall in love and have long-lasting, meaningful relationships. Physical attraction is just one indicator of sexual orientation.
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« Reply #1 on: October 29, 2014, 04:55:44 pm »

If you jerk off to gay porn; no doubt you are gay.
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« Reply #2 on: October 29, 2014, 10:45:17 pm »

I can tell you what my own experience is, I don't know if it is the same for everybody. Although I had sex with a man for the first time when I was in my late 20's it was clear to me that I was gay since I was 12 or 13. It seems very simple to me and I don't understand how people cannot be sure about their sexual orientation. If guys attract you and girls don't attract you, you're gay. Easy.
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« Reply #3 on: October 30, 2014, 04:42:23 pm »

So everyone is straight till they have sex with someone of the same gender? That's so ridiculous!
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« Reply #4 on: October 31, 2014, 12:46:43 am »

If you jerk off to gay porn; no doubt you are gay.

Too easy..you can jerk off to straight porn and you can be gay, or bi. It's not easy to determine, or examining himself about these feelings.


I can tell you what my own experience is, I don't know if it is the same for everybody. Although I had sex with a man for the first time when I was in my late 20's it was clear to me that I was gay since I was 12 or 13. It seems very simple to me and I don't understand how people cannot be sure about their sexual orientation. If guys attract you and girls don't attract you, you're gay. Easy.
Although you're right, there are familiar and social factors that can "deform" the vision of anyone self-identity
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« Reply #5 on: September 16, 2016, 02:15:48 pm »

Sex has little to do with your orientation.
Who are you attracted to ?
Are your male friendships stronger and different than those of the female friendships you have?

I had had sex with women and men but knew that I wanted, no needed , to have a relationship with a guy. My relationships with women were good but I felt right when I was in a relationship with a guy.

I hope that helps.
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« Reply #6 on: September 16, 2016, 03:50:11 pm »

You know that the same way that straight people know (or find out) they're straight. Wink

You just know it at some point.
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« Reply #7 on: September 16, 2016, 07:47:31 pm »

go fuck a man and go fuck a woman just to be sure.

If you have doubts you have them for a reason.
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« Reply #8 on: September 16, 2016, 09:16:25 pm »

When you see two man having sex, do you want to be one of them? Do you cum while watching gay porn? If the answers are Yes, you are gay, no need any spesific action.
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« Reply #9 on: September 17, 2016, 05:28:50 pm »

 Cry Cry
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« Reply #10 on: September 17, 2016, 08:20:21 pm »

if you get hard watching gay porn and you cum, you're gay (or bi!)
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« Reply #11 on: September 18, 2016, 12:19:52 am »

I knew from a very very young age loved and admired men since I was like 6 those feelings continued to get stronger only ever jerked off to gay porn and when I sucked my first dick when I was 14 I think it went from 99% sure to 200% sure lo loved it.
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« Reply #12 on: September 18, 2016, 02:40:00 am »

It is possible to know you're gay even if you're a virgin or haven't had a same-sex physical relationship. Being gay isn't just about sex; it is about emotion. Just like straight people, gay people fall in love and have long-lasting, meaningful relationships. Physical attraction is just one indicator of sexual orientation.


This was the only decent answer.  All the others just had to do with sex. And just because a guy gets hard watching gay porn or with a guy means nothing. Look at all the closeted gay men that have sex with women constantly. Doesn't mean they are str8 or bi.  Its way  more then a physical.  Its an emotional and physical combination
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« Reply #13 on: September 20, 2016, 11:38:18 pm »

It's simple. What do you feel?
Imagine yourself intimate with a guy (both roles) and imagine yourself with a woman.
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« Reply #14 on: November 01, 2016, 09:52:28 am »



One can have a physical reaction to others without having to have sex with them, nor even masturbate to their image. A slight tingling 'bout the groin region and so on.

And I mean if you want to be pedantic, can anyone be certain of their sexuality even have they've had sex?

You might have had 80 girlfriends in your life and been happily married to a woman for the last 30 years, never had the slightest reaction to a male in all that time, and then you see Brad Pitt for the first time and get an erection. It's entirely possible that sexual preference is wholly fluid for the majority of us (at the moment of birth), but that there's a lot of pressure and practical benefit to dating the opposite sex so we might never even develop our ability to have interest in our own sex.

Ultimately, it's best to not worry about it. If you like someone, like em. If you don't, don't.

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« Reply #15 on: November 01, 2016, 09:05:11 pm »

I have to ask the question:

Does it matter?

If you want to have sex with a man, have sex with a man.  If you then want to have sex with a woman, have sex with a woman.  Pursue the relationships you want to pursue.  Is it really so important to tick a box on a form.  I mean, you don't need a gay license to have sex with men.  Or to have permission to pursue a romantic relationship.  If that was the case, mine would have been revoked a long time ago.  And I'd still be having sex with men.  "Fuck the system!"

I second what spam17 said. "Ultimately, it's best to not worry about it. If you like someone, like em. If you don't, don't."
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« Reply #16 on: November 01, 2016, 10:32:02 pm »

Like others have said, sex and love are very dynamic. There is no real definition for anything. You may be sexually attracted to men but emotionally to women.

Go with what you feel is right and as long as it doesn't hurt anyone then it's okay.
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« Reply #17 on: November 03, 2016, 06:44:11 am »

I knew I was gay waaay long before I had sex...
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« Reply #18 on: November 03, 2016, 11:32:19 am »

You always hear "I was sure since I was little". .So If you're not sure in that inherent way, I would make it a point to try a man and a woman out. Doesn't matter what kind of porn you watch or even who you have sex with. I am more visually attracted to guys but sexual experiences with them aren't as intense or emotionally charged as when I am with a woman.
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« Reply #19 on: November 03, 2016, 04:06:21 pm »

Just ask yourself if you see yourself with a guy in a relationship (love, sex and whatever comes with it) Tongue
IF your answer is yes, then yeah, you gay.
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