they normally agree to mess around after they see me or he tells them he has a friend
What's key here is the part you've de-emphasized, which is the role that your presence plays in getting them to agree to stay, after
being apparently disappointed by your homely friend. You are their consolation prize.
As for your friend, what he lacks in looks he makes up for in networking―being the better, more connected, bonhomie
of your pair. But alas, even that payoff is anhedonic for him, in that he does 100% of the legwork finding these guys and reaps only 50% of the attention―if even that―and thus not the full
reward for his efforts. Who was it that was feeling used again? Cause you might have to clarify that, like what it is youre doing after theyve agreed to stay. You didn't specify, but my guess is, it isnt playing metal gear solid in the next room. But then again, hes is
at least, and I guess something is better than nothing.
In any event, I'd suggest not rocking the boat you two are in. You never know how good you have something until its gone.