I can't get my d1ck hard for long time, help.
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« on: January 10, 2017, 08:21:39 am »

Hi guys.

So I got myself a fuckbuddy.
He's very gentle and funny, and we both enjoy many things in common so we get along pretty well.
But that's not the main subject.

The thing is, when we decide to have some moment between us, he sometimes wants me to fuck him, and that's great. But somehow, I just can't get a boner.
And he's not ugly or anything, he's got a great butt, I love playing with it, but it's like I, somehow, feel insecure or something.

At first when we start kissing and touching, I do get very hard, but as time goes by, it gets soft again.
And I don't know if I get distracted or something.

It really bothers me because I want to please him,
But if I can't keep my dick hard for long time, then that means that I probably just don't work for having sex.
I don't want to take any pill.
Maybe it's because I don't have much experience.
But he does make me horny and he's really good to me, so he deserves more from me when we have sex.

I don't know if any of you ever had a problem like this, but I hope I can get it right somehow.

I'm 22 btw.



« Reply #1 on: January 10, 2017, 10:22:13 am »

You don't need any pills or viagra, you're simply thinking too much.

It's all in your head. You feel insecure and you feel pressure and that's why it doesn't work.

You should relax, which is easier said than done. Talk to him about it.


« Reply #2 on: January 10, 2017, 11:01:33 am »

Weed lol, or anything that helps you stop over thinking. I had the same exact issue, weed really helps. Not toooo much though.
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« Reply #3 on: January 10, 2017, 01:45:49 pm »

I'm 53 and have had this problem most of my life.
I don't have the problem after I have spent a lot of time with the guy. I have never been able to do one-night stands or quickies.
I don't think it's bad but I agree it's frustrating.

Stop thinking about things and let whatever happens happen.


« Reply #4 on: January 10, 2017, 03:37:43 pm »

I used to have the exact same problem.  Had a regular fuckbuddy, nice body, we got along well, the sex was great.  But as good as it all was, I never got hard long enough to penetrate him.  The doctors couldn't find anything wrong.  I had taken antidepressants for years in my late teens and 20s which lowered my libido, so I thought they had just fucked me up permanently and I would never be a top.

Then seven years ago I moved to a new city.  I went on a date with a boy who wasn't exactly my type, nor I his, so I didn't expect much to happen, then we talked and walked around the city, and I ended up falling head over heels in love.  On our second date, I met his friends and we hit it off, then the two of us went for a walk by the Rhône and making out on a bench for about an hour in the cold.  After he drove me home, I so much didn't want to let him go that I convinced him to come up and spend the night.  Well, much to my surprise, from the make-out session by the river until we had both spent our loads that night, I remained hard almost the entire time without difficulty.  I fucked him, he fucked me, and I had the time of my life.

That's when I realized the problem wasn't physical, but that I just wasn't satisfied enough with a quickie or even a regular but otherwise unavailable fuckbuddy.  It took being in love with someone to unblock my cock, so to speak.  Even a deep kiss from him was enough to get me to full mast.

Now, we did eventually break up.  The good news is that after that, I was able to get it up with other guys.  I did learn, however, that I really don't enjoy random hookups 99% of the time.  If I do it too much, or with a guy who really doesn't please me, I have a hard time getting hard enough to top, or even to cum sometimes.  That's why I prefer talking to someone first, getting to know them, making an emotional connection, and then if the mood strikes us, hopefully by that time I'm relaxed and in the mood and there's no problem.

So, that's my story.  I'm not saying you necessarily have to fall in true love to fix your problem, but maybe it's time to start asking yourself if you're getting everything you need from this relationship.  At the end of the day, though, the guys above me are right.  It's almost certainly in your head.  If you're nervous about something (and that includes being nervous about performing), it will be harder to get it up.  Talk to your partner; it will probably help.  And be sure to come back here and let us know how things go, and if you need more advice.


« Reply #5 on: January 14, 2017, 03:27:54 pm »

you are not alone..


« Reply #6 on: January 14, 2017, 08:29:16 pm »

Just relax, the more you think about keeping it hard the more difficult it will be.

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