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« on: October 23, 2016, 07:07:38 am »


I would like to hear your thoughts about that simple question..

Can you be straight and still like gay porn?

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« Reply #1 on: October 23, 2016, 07:10:04 am »


I would like to hear your thoughts about that simple question..

Can you be straight and still like gay porn?

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Sure if it's lesbian porn.
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« Reply #2 on: October 23, 2016, 07:20:26 am »



I would like to hear your thoughts about that simple question..

Can you be straight and still like gay porn?

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Sure if it's lesbian porn.

In any other case?

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« Reply #3 on: October 23, 2016, 07:20:55 am »

funny you should ask that question...Up until two years ago I would have said no but I am now living proof of what you ask. I ONLY really enjoy male gay porn now. I could get graphic as to why  but needless to say, I find male female and even female on female boring as heck...There is something about a cock wielded the right way and it seems I can only find that in gay male porn...
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« Reply #4 on: October 23, 2016, 09:10:35 am »

Yes. Porn preference does not define your sexual preference. I'm gay and I find lesbian porn so fucking hot. And I know someone who gets off on scat porn but really has no fucking balls to do it in real life. It's just porn.
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« Reply #5 on: October 23, 2016, 12:17:14 pm »

I would say yes-because for some it's just a fantasy- something forbidden that they'd never try in real life but they can get off on by just watching. Although it becomes more hazy once the person begins to exclusively turn to gay porn to get off. Then it might mean something else.
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« Reply #6 on: October 23, 2016, 02:24:38 pm »

I don't see why not, human sexuality is a messy, weird, wonderful thing
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« Reply #7 on: October 23, 2016, 04:41:11 pm »

With porn we need to see more a more extreme things to get excited... At least that is what I think.
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« Reply #8 on: October 23, 2016, 11:22:23 pm »

Just met a man who likes watching only straight porn. Gayer than anyone I have ever met,  myself included. But he gets off on it more than gay porn.  I don't have a clue why you should be judged by the porn you watch, or the people you sleep with. You should just be yourself, enjoy what you like and keep your head up.
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« Reply #9 on: October 24, 2016, 01:06:13 am »

YES. In fact, in Japanese there's a particular saying for them: Fujoshi (Girls who like seeing Yaoi/Yuri eventhough they are straight), and Fudanshi (BOYS who like seeing Yaoi/Yuri eventhough they are straight). These groups have their own genre and circle, and has been regarded as normal occurence. Particularly Fujoshis, because there are MANY.

Scientifically speaking (thanks to ASAP Science), everyone is actually born with bisexual bicurious tendency. Because penis started out as vagina first. That explains why everyone tend to show a degree of attractiveness to the same gender, though the level varies. Hence why there's a term Bromance and the likes... Roll Eyes
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« Reply #10 on: October 24, 2016, 01:24:03 am »

I do think so. Because it's just a body pleasure.
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« Reply #11 on: October 24, 2016, 01:40:24 am »


Please believe what I am about to tell you. The answer is an unequivocal and absolute YES. Despite our needs to put everything into neat categories and dichotomies in society to make it easier for us to judge others and make ourselves feel superior- sexuality defies this kind of classification. I do not believe anyone is 100% straight or 100% gay- sexuality is better looked at as falling along a spectrum, just like any other attribute/defining characteristic that can't be genetically/biologically traced, identified, or tested for. I myself am a 30 year old male who came out as gay six years ago. I've been on this site far longer than that, of course. I tried for so long to be straight, or "bi-sexual"- I both dated (and slept with) girls in high school AND in college. My rationalization for not coming out prior to when I did was that since I was physically able to get it up for girls (most of the time) and I enjoyed sex with girls (or at least seemed by all accounts to be good at it), then why should I have to acknowledge the fact that I only watch gay porn and that the thought of hooking up with another guy is my true fantasy? The reason is that I was lying to myself and my attraction to girls/women was completely programmed by societal norms and expectations. Coming out as gay or even bisexual terrified me because it seemed like I would be actively (and perhaps needlessly) making my life SO much more difficult- risk my family no longer loving and supporting me the way they always had, risk my friends abandoning me because I had essentially been lying to them (and myself) for so long and so not only was I going to have to admit I licked dick but also that I had been hiding it from them and "pretending" to like pussy for so long- so I was not only a closeted fag, but a disingenuous one- who wants to be that? To anyone else in this situation, JUST COME OUT. Unless it risks physical harm to you (you have an abusive parent or partner or something who would threaten your life/well-being) than the SOONER you accept it and do it the HAPPIER you will be! TRUST ME. If I could go back in time I would come out in elementary school if I could have- but definitely middle or high school- certainly college. Now I look back and think about how things might have gone if I hadn't chose to wear this mask for so long and just accepted who I was and what my true sexual orientation (not PREFERENCE, ORIENTATION) was. You want to know how to know whether you're mostly gay or straight? I can tell you how. And it has very little to do with what kind of porn you watch (although it is true that most gay men get off to watching two men have sex and most straight men enjoy watching a man and a woman or two women- here's a question I've always wondered- shouldn't straight women also be huge fans of gay man on man porn? You always hear about girls who say they think it's hot, but why isn't it as much of a common factoid as straight men who enjoy watching two women? The same logic should apply to straight women (women who are mostly into dick/men) enjoying watching two men- should it not? Something to think about). Anyways here's how you can tell whether you fall closer to gay or straight on the spectrum. Ready? Lie down on your bed or couch or somewhere comfortable where you are by yourself and are not in a stressful state of mind. Close your eyes and try to relax. Take a few deep breaths until you feel perfectly comfortable, calm, and at ease- like you could probably fall asleep if you wanted to. Then ask yourself this question: "What is your true ultimate fantasy when it comes to sex?" That is, if you were Neo in the Matrix or woke up in a dream in which you could control anything and everything- and thus had the ability to make any scenario a reality- what would you do to get yourself off? If you're a guy, what thought makes your dick so hard you feel like it's going to break off? If you're a girl, what makes you wetter than you've ever been in your life and feel like you're going to go nuts if you don't have something inside you? I'm assuming you're a guy given that you're posting on here and are anxious about what liking or being able to get off to gay porn might mean about your sexual orientation. Like I said, it means very little. The more important question is the one I just suggested you posed to yourself in a state of relaxation (because this will make it more likely that you will be able to be HONEST with yourself, let go of any negative implications and just think about and honestly allow yourself to explore the question of "WHAT WOULD TURN ME ON THE MOST IN THE WORLD/UNIVERSE?)". Ultimately the answer to that question- the real answer- that if you're gay and in the closet you have probably always felt on some level may be true but been too terrified to entertain, especially given that all the men (and women) around you are presumably straight and you don't act or sound gay or speak or move your hands in any flamboyant or manneristic way that is so commonly portrayed in the media as how ALL GAY MEN ACT (we DON'T- if anything we tend to be more masculine than straight men, believe it or not)- will reveal this to you. What it boils down to more than what porn you like most is what is your ultimate fantasy? Does it involve you putting your dick into a woman or a man? Or having a man put his dick inside you? Does the thought of sucking a nice big dick sound hot or disgusting to you? Chances are, if the sight of two men blowing each other, rimming each other, and then fucking each other is what makes it easiest and quickest for you to get hard, jerk yourself off, and climax (aka cum)- then you are probably more gay than straight. What happens when you watch two women going down on eachother? Do you get hard at all? How about a man and a woman fucking? Anything happen down there when you watch that? I know plenty of straight guys who will admit to me that watching two women does absolutely NOTHING for them- even they will admit to me that they just need to see a dick going into a hole- whether it's an ass or a vagina. Some straight guys have even admitted to me that they've fantasized about jerking off with another guy, or letting a guy give them head, or even fucking a guy (most don't fantasize about being fucked, or at least none of the guys I've met who have shared stuff with me have confessed to that). It's even considered normal in developmental psychology for straight boys (boys who will grow up to be primarily heterosexual men- more attracted to women than men) to have at least one isolated homosexual experience in their early teen/adolescent/young adult years. I remember being mad when I read this because this never happened to me- as much as I would have loved if it had- because ALL of the guys I had crushes on throughout my entire childhood and adolescence/young adult life were quintessentially straight-acting and seemingly completely heterosexual boys who had no interest in doing anything sexual with me- and instead were the type who got with a lot of girls and enjoyed bragging about it. I don't know how many times I would get hard hearing these guys telling me about a girl sucking their hard dick until they busted in her face or down her throat or how they fucked a girl so hard they had to put a sock over their mouth to stop them from screaming so loud they woke up their parents. That shit was hot even though they were describing heterosexual sex because just the thought of them having sex was enough to turn me on. So don't get bogged down with worrying about what the porn you watch says about you and try to focus more on deciphering what your ultimate fantasy is- because that's the question that will ultimately help you figure out whether you're more into dick or vagina. If it's the former, it's OK- and you will be OK. If anything, you'll be much happier coming to terms with it- and the sooner you do that the easier it will be on you. Your parents and family members will still love you (if not, they don't truly love you now), your friends will not abandon you (if they do, they were never true friends), and you will be able to stop feeling ashamed of what kind of porn you watch and recognize that it just means something about two guys fucking is hot to you (guess what, it IS hot and you are far from alone in thinking so). So my advice is this: give yourself a break, watch whatever kind of porn you want, and don't worry about it's implications for your sexuality. Instead, use the other question to figure that out and once you do, put down the burden of lying to yourself about what DOESN'T turn you on (even if that is women/vagina). Best of luck to you my friend.
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« Reply #12 on: October 24, 2016, 03:40:17 am »


Mrsmth677,  I found it easier reading your answer formatted in the following way:

Quote

Please believe what I am about to tell you.

The answer is an unequivocal and absolute YES.

Despite our needs to put everything into neat categories and dichotomies in society to make it easier for us to judge others and make ourselves feel superior- sexuality defies this kind of classification.

I do not believe anyone is 100% straight or 100% gay- sexuality is better looked at as falling along a spectrum, just like any other attribute/defining characteristic that can't be genetically/biologically traced, identified, or tested for.

I myself am a 30 year old male who came out as gay six years ago.

I've been on this site far longer than that, of course.

I tried for so long to be straight, or "bi-sexual"- I both dated (and slept with) girls in high school AND in college.

My rationalization for not coming out prior to when I did was that since I was physically able to get it up for girls (most of the time) and I enjoyed sex with girls (or at least seemed by all accounts to be good at it), then why should I have to acknowledge the fact that I only watch gay porn and that the thought of hooking up with another guy is my true fantasy?

The reason is that I was lying to myself and my attraction to girls/women was completely programmed by societal norms and expectations. Coming out as gay or even bisexual terrified me because it seemed like I would be actively (and perhaps needlessly) making my life SO much more difficult- risk my family no longer loving and supporting me the way they always had, risk my friends abandoning me because I had essentially been lying to them (and myself) for so long and so not only was I going to have to admit I licked dick but also that I had been hiding it from them and "pretending" to like pussy for so long- so I was not only a closeted fag, but a disingenuous one- who wants to be that?

To anyone else in this situation, JUST COME OUT.

Unless it risks physical harm to you (you have an abusive parent or partner or something who would threaten your life/well-being) than the SOONER you accept it and do it the HAPPIER you will be!

TRUST ME.

If I could go back in time I would come out in elementary school if I could have- but definitely middle or high school- certainly college.

Now I look back and think about how things might have gone if I hadn't chose to wear this mask for so long and just accepted who I was and what my true sexual orientation (not PREFERENCE, ORIENTATION) was.

You want to know how to know whether you're mostly gay or straight?

I can tell you how.

And it has very little to do with what kind of porn you watch (although it is true that most gay men get off to watching two men have sex and most straight men enjoy watching a man and a woman or two women- here's a question I've always wondered- shouldn't straight women also be huge fans of gay man on man porn?

You always hear about girls who say they think it's hot, but why isn't it as much of a common factoid as straight men who enjoy watching two women?

The same logic should apply to straight women (women who are mostly into dick/men) enjoying watching two men- should it not?

Something to think about.

Anyways here's how you can tell whether you fall closer to gay or straight on the spectrum.

Ready?

Lie down on your bed or couch or somewhere comfortable where you are by yourself and are not in a stressful state of mind.

Close your eyes and try to relax.

Take a few deep breaths until you feel perfectly comfortable, calm, and at ease- like you could probably fall asleep if you wanted to.

Then ask yourself this question:

"What is your true ultimate fantasy when it comes to sex?"

That is, if you were Neo in the Matrix or woke up in a dream in which you could control anything and everything- and thus had the ability to make any scenario a reality- what would you do to get yourself off?

If you're a guy, what thought makes your dick so hard you feel like it's going to break off?

If you're a girl, what makes you wetter than you've ever been in your life and feel like you're going to go nuts if you don't have something inside you?

I'm assuming you're a guy given that you're posting on here and are anxious about what liking or being able to get off to gay porn might mean about your sexual orientation.

Like I said, it means very little.

The more important question is the one I just suggested you posed to yourself in a state of relaxation (because this will make it more likely that you will be able to be HONEST with yourself, let go of any negative implications and just think about and honestly allow yourself to explore the question of "WHAT WOULD TURN ME ON THE MOST IN THE WORLD/UNIVERSE?)". Ultimately the answer to that question- the real answer- that if you're gay and in the closet you have probably always felt on some level may be true but been too terrified to entertain, especially given that all the men (and women) around you are presumably straight and you don't act or sound gay or speak or move your hands in any flamboyant or manneristic way that is so commonly portrayed in the media as how ALL GAY MEN ACT (we DON'T- if anything we tend to be more masculine than straight men, believe it or not)- will reveal this to you. What it boils down to more than what porn you like most is what is your ultimate fantasy? Does it involve you putting your dick into a woman or a man? Or having a man put his dick inside you? Does the thought of sucking a nice big dick sound hot or disgusting to you? Chances are, if the sight of two men blowing each other, rimming each other, and then fucking each other is what makes it easiest and quickest for you to get hard, jerk yourself off, and climax (aka cum)- then you are probably more gay than straight. What happens when you watch two women going down on eachother? Do you get hard at all? How about a man and a woman fucking? Anything happen down there when you watch that? I know plenty of straight guys who will admit to me that watching two women does absolutely NOTHING for them- even they will admit to me that they just need to see a dick going into a hole- whether it's an ass or a vagina. Some straight guys have even admitted to me that they've fantasized about jerking off with another guy, or letting a guy give them head, or even fucking a guy (most don't fantasize about being fucked, or at least none of the guys I've met who have shared stuff with me have confessed to that). It's even considered normal in developmental psychology for straight boys (boys who will grow up to be primarily heterosexual men- more attracted to women than men) to have at least one isolated homosexual experience in their early teen/adolescent/young adult years. I remember being mad when I read this because this never happened to me- as much as I would have loved if it had- because ALL of the guys I had crushes on throughout my entire childhood and adolescence/young adult life were quintessentially straight-acting and seemingly completely heterosexual boys who had no interest in doing anything sexual with me- and instead were the type who got with a lot of girls and enjoyed bragging about it. I don't know how many times I would get hard hearing these guys telling me about a girl sucking their hard dick until they busted in her face or down her throat or how they fucked a girl so hard they had to put a sock over their mouth to stop them from screaming so loud they woke up their parents. That shit was hot even though they were describing heterosexual sex because just the thought of them having sex was enough to turn me on. So don't get bogged down with worrying about what the porn you watch says about you and try to focus more on deciphering what your ultimate fantasy is- because that's the question that will ultimately help you figure out whether you're more into dick or vagina. If it's the former, it's OK- and you will be OK. If anything, you'll be much happier coming to terms with it- and the sooner you do that the easier it will be on you.

Your parents and family members will still love you (if not, they don't truly love you now), your friends will not abandon you (if they do, they were never true friends), and you will be able to stop feeling ashamed of what kind of porn you watch and recognize that it just means something about two guys fucking is hot to you (guess what, it IS hot and you are far from alone in thinking so).

So my advice is this: give yourself a break, watch whatever kind of porn you want, and don't worry about it's implications for your sexuality.

 Instead, use the other question to figure that out and once you do, put down the burden of lying to yourself about what DOESN'T turn you on (even if that is women/vagina).

Best of luck to you my friend.


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Don't you agree that your answer was now easier to read,?


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« Reply #13 on: October 24, 2016, 06:34:18 am »


Sorry for the double post..  I saw today that I couldn't edit my previous post in order to fix the last part of my previous message which didn't show up correctly in my last post..   😊


Mrsmth677,  I found it easier reading your answer formatted in the following way:

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Please believe what I am about to tell you.

The answer is an unequivocal and absolute YES.

Despite our needs to put everything into neat categories and dichotomies in society to make it easier for us to judge others and make ourselves feel superior- sexuality defies this kind of classification.

I do not believe anyone is 100% straight or 100% gay- sexuality is better looked at as falling along a spectrum, just like any other attribute/defining characteristic that can't be genetically/biologically traced, identified, or tested for.

I myself am a 30 year old male who came out as gay six years ago.

I've been on this site far longer than that, of course.

I tried for so long to be straight, or "bi-sexual"- I both dated (and slept with) girls in high school AND in college.

My rationalization for not coming out prior to when I did was that since I was physically able to get it up for girls (most of the time) and I enjoyed sex with girls (or at least seemed by all accounts to be good at it), then why should I have to acknowledge the fact that I only watch gay porn and that the thought of hooking up with another guy is my true fantasy?

The reason is that I was lying to myself and my attraction to girls/women was completely programmed by societal norms and expectations. Coming out as gay or even bisexual terrified me because it seemed like I would be actively (and perhaps needlessly) making my life SO much more difficult- risk my family no longer loving and supporting me the way they always had, risk my friends abandoning me because I had essentially been lying to them (and myself) for so long and so not only was I going to have to admit I licked dick but also that I had been hiding it from them and "pretending" to like pussy for so long- so I was not only a closeted fag, but a disingenuous one- who wants to be that?

To anyone else in this situation, JUST COME OUT.

Unless it risks physical harm to you (you have an abusive parent or partner or something who would threaten your life/well-being) than the SOONER you accept it and do it the HAPPIER you will be!

TRUST ME.

If I could go back in time I would come out in elementary school if I could have- but definitely middle or high school- certainly college.

Now I look back and think about how things might have gone if I hadn't chose to wear this mask for so long and just accepted who I was and what my true sexual orientation (not PREFERENCE, ORIENTATION) was.

You want to know how to know whether you're mostly gay or straight?

I can tell you how.

And it has very little to do with what kind of porn you watch (although it is true that most gay men get off to watching two men have sex and most straight men enjoy watching a man and a woman or two women- here's a question I've always wondered- shouldn't straight women also be huge fans of gay man on man porn?

You always hear about girls who say they think it's hot, but why isn't it as much of a common factoid as straight men who enjoy watching two women?

The same logic should apply to straight women (women who are mostly into dick/men) enjoying watching two men- should it not?

Something to think about.

Anyways here's how you can tell whether you fall closer to gay or straight on the spectrum.

Ready?

Lie down on your bed or couch or somewhere comfortable where you are by yourself and are not in a stressful state of mind.

Close your eyes and try to relax.

Take a few deep breaths until you feel perfectly comfortable, calm, and at ease- like you could probably fall asleep if you wanted to.

Then ask yourself this question:

"What is your true ultimate fantasy when it comes to sex?"

That is, if you were Neo in the Matrix or woke up in a dream in which you could control anything and everything- and thus had the ability to make any scenario a reality- what would you do to get yourself off?

If you're a guy, what thought makes your dick so hard you feel like it's going to break off?

If you're a girl, what makes you wetter than you've ever been in your life and feel like you're going to go nuts if you don't have something inside you?

I'm assuming you're a guy given that you're posting on here and are anxious about what liking or being able to get off to gay porn might mean about your sexual orientation.

Like I said, it means very little.

The more important question is the one I just suggested you posed to yourself in a state of relaxation (because this will make it more likely that you will be able to be HONEST with yourself, let go of any negative implications and just think about and honestly allow yourself to explore the question of "WHAT WOULD TURN ME ON THE MOST IN THE WORLD/UNIVERSE?)".

Ultimately the answer to that question- the real answer- that if you're gay and in the closet you have probably always felt on some level may be true but been too terrified to entertain, especially given that all the men (and women) around you are presumably straight and you don't act or sound gay or speak or move your hands in any flamboyant or manneristic way that is so commonly portrayed in the media as how ALL GAY MEN ACT (we DON'T- if anything we tend to be more masculine than straight men, believe it or not)- will reveal this to you.

What it boils down to more than what porn you like most is what is your ultimate fantasy?

Does it involve you putting your dick into a woman or a man?

Or having a man put his dick inside you?

Does the thought of sucking a nice big dick sound hot or disgusting to you?

Chances are, if the sight of two men blowing each other, rimming each other, and then fucking each other is what makes it easiest and quickest for you to get hard, jerk yourself off, and climax (aka cum)- then you are probably more gay than straight.

What happens when you watch two women going down on eachother?

Do you get hard at all?

How about a man and a woman fucking?

Anything happen down there when you watch that?

I know plenty of straight guys who will admit to me that watching two women does absolutely NOTHING for them- even they will admit to me that they just need to see a dick going into a hole- whether it's an ass or a vagina.

Some straight guys have even admitted to me that they've fantasized about jerking off with another guy, or letting a guy give them head, or even fucking a guy (most don't fantasize about being fucked, or at least none of the guys I've met who have shared stuff with me have confessed to that).

It's even considered normal in developmental psychology for straight boys (boys who will grow up to be primarily heterosexual men- more attracted to women than men) to have at least one isolated homosexual experience in their early teen/adolescent/young adult years.

I remember being mad when I read this because this never happened to me- as much as I would have loved if it had- because ALL of the guys I had crushes on throughout my entire childhood and adolescence/young adult life were quintessentially straight-acting and seemingly completely heterosexual boys who had no interest in doing anything sexual with me- and instead were the type who got with a lot of girls and enjoyed bragging about it.

Idon't know how many times I would get hard hearing these guys telling me about a girl sucking their hard dick until they busted in her face or down her throat or how they fucked a girl so hard they had to put a sock over their mouth to stop them from screaming so loud they woke up their parents.

That shit was hot even though they were describing heterosexual sex because just the thought of them having sex was enough to turn me on.

So don't get bogged down with worrying about what the porn you watch says about you and try to focus more on deciphering what your ultimate fantasy is- because that's the question that will ultimately help you figure out whether you're more into dick or vagina.

If it's the former, it's OK- and you will be OK. If anything, you'll be much happier coming to terms with it- and the sooner you do that the easier it will be on you.

Your parents and family members will still love you (if not, they don't truly love you now), your friends will not abandon you (if they do, they were never true friends), and you will be able to stop feeling ashamed of what kind of porn you watch and recognize that it just means something about two guys fucking is hot to you (guess what, it IS hot and you are far from alone in thinking so).

So my advice is this: give yourself a break, watch whatever kind of porn you want, and don't worry about it's implications for your sexuality.

Instead, use the other question to figure that out and once you do, put down the burden of lying to yourself about what DOESN'T turn you on (even if that is women/vagina).

Best of luck to you my friend.


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Don't you agree that your answer was now easier to read?


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« Reply #14 on: October 24, 2016, 09:40:45 am »


I didn't bother formatting it into different Paragraphs and indentations because I was rushing to finish it in time to pick up my take out food order that I placed just before I started typing it. But no, I think the way you formatted it- while an improvement- goes from not enough paragraph breaks to far too many. How about this:

Please believe what I am about to tell you. The answer is an unequivocal and absolute YES. Despite our needs to put everything into neat categories and dichotomies in society to make it easier for us to judge others and make ourselves feel superior- sexuality defies this kind of classification. I do not believe anyone is 100% straight or 100% gay- sexuality is better looked at as falling along a spectrum, just like any other attribute/defining characteristic that can't be genetically/biologically traced, identified, or tested for.

I myself am a 30 year old male who came out as gay six years ago. I've been on this site far longer than that, of course. I tried for so long to be straight, or "bi-sexual"- I both dated (and slept with) girls in high school AND in college. My rationalization for not coming out prior to when I did was that since I was physically able to get it up for girls (most of the time) and I enjoyed sex with girls (or at least seemed by all accounts to be good at it), then why should I have to acknowledge the fact that I only watch gay porn and that the thought of hooking up with another guy is my true fantasy?

The reason is that I was lying to myself and my attraction to girls/women was completely programmed by societal norms and expectations. Coming out as gay or even bisexual terrified me because it seemed like I would be actively (and perhaps needlessly) making my life SO much more difficult- risk my family no longer loving and supporting me the way they always had, risk my friends abandoning me because I had essentially been lying to them (and myself) for so long and so not only was I going to have to admit I licked dick but also that I had been hiding it from them and "pretending" to like pussy for so long- so I was not only a closeted fag, but a disingenuous one- who wants to be that?

To anyone else in this situation: JUST COME OUT. Unless it risks physical harm to you (you have an abusive parent or partner or something who would threaten your life/well-being) than the SOONER you accept it and do it the HAPPIER you will be! TRUST ME. If I could go back in time I would come out in elementary school if I could have- but definitely middle or high school- certainly college. Now I look back and think about how things might have gone if I hadn't chose to wear this mask for so long and just accepted who I was and what my true sexual orientation (not PREFERENCE, ORIENTATION) was.

You want to know the most reliable way to figure out whether you're mostly gay or straight? I can tell you how. It is not as simple as what kind of porn you watch (although it is true that most gay men get off to watching two men have sex and most straight men enjoy watching a man and a woman or two women- here's a question I've always wondered- shouldn't straight women also be huge fans of gay man on man porn? You always hear about girls who say they think it's hot, but why isn't it as much of a common factoid as straight men who enjoy watching two women? The same logic should apply to straight women (women who are mostly into dick/men) enjoying watching two men- should it not? Something to think about).

Anyways here's how you can tell whether you fall closer to gay or straight on the spectrum. Ready? Lie down on your bed or couch or somewhere comfortable where you are by yourself and are not in a stressful state of mind. Close your eyes and try to relax. Take a few deep breaths until you feel perfectly comfortable, calm, and at ease- like you could probably fall asleep if you wanted to. Then ask yourself this question: "What is your true ultimate fantasy when it comes to sex?" That is, if you were Neo in the Matrix or woke up in a dream in which you could control anything and everything- and thus had the ability to make any scenario a reality- what would you do to get yourself off? If you're a guy, what thought makes your dick so hard you feel like it's going to break off? If you're a girl, what makes you wetter than you've ever been in your life and feel like you're going to go nuts if you don't have something inside you?

I'm assuming you're a guy given that you're posting on here and are anxious about what liking or being able to get off to gay porn might mean about your sexual orientation. Like I said, it means very little. The more important question is the one I just suggested you posed to yourself in a state of relaxation (because this will make it more likely that you will be able to be HONEST with yourself, let go of any negative implications and just think about and honestly allow yourself to explore the question of "WHAT WOULD TURN ME ON THE MOST IN THE WORLD/UNIVERSE?)".

Ultimately the answer to that question- the real answer- that if you're gay and in the closet you have probably always felt on some level may be true but been too terrified to entertain, especially given that all the men (and women) around you are presumably straight and you don't act or sound gay or speak or move your hands in any flamboyant or manneristic way that is so commonly portrayed in the media as how ALL GAY MEN ACT (we DON'T- if anything we tend to be more masculine than straight men, believe it or not)- will reveal this to you.

What it boils down to more than what porn you like most is what is your ultimate fantasy? Does it involve you putting your dick into a woman or a man? Or having a man put his dick inside you? Does the thought of sucking a nice big dick sound hot or disgusting to you? Chances are, if the sight of two men blowing each other, rimming each other, and then fucking each other is what makes it easiest and quickest for you to get hard, jerk yourself off, and climax (aka cum)- then you are probably more gay than straight. What happens when you watch two women going down on eachother? Do you get hard at all? How about a man and a woman fucking? Anything happen down there when you watch that?

Just to put things into perspective for you a little bit more, let me tell you something that will probably make you feel a lot better. Throughout my life, I've met plenty of predominantly straight/heterosexual guys who have admitted to me (usually after a fair amount of alcohol) that watching two women does absolutely NOTHING for them- does this make them not straight? No. They just admit that they just need to see a dick going into a hole- whether it's an ass or a vagina. Some straight guys have even confessed to me that they've fantasized about jerking off with another guy, or letting a guy jerk them off or give them head, or even fucking another guy (most don't fantasize about being fucked, or at least none of the guys I've met who have shared stuff with me have confessed to that).

It's even considered normal in developmental psychology for straight boys (boys who will grow up to be primarily heterosexual men- more attracted to women than men) to have at least one isolated homosexual experience in their early teen/adolescent/young adult years. I remember being mad when I read this because this never happened to me- as much as I would have loved if it had- because ALL of the guys I had crushes on throughout my entire childhood and adolescence/young adult life were quintessentially straight-acting and seemingly completely heterosexual boys who had no interest in doing anything sexual with me- and instead were the type who got with a lot of girls and enjoyed bragging about it.

I don't know how many times I would get hard hearing these guys telling me about a girl sucking their hard dick until they busted in her face or down her throat or how they fucked a girl so hard they had to put a sock over their mouth to stop them from screaming so loud they woke up their parents. That shit was hot even though they were describing heterosexual sex because just the thought of them having sex was enough to turn me on.

So overall, my advice to you is not to let yourself get bogged down with what the kind of porn you like/watch says about you/your sexual orientation and try to focus more on deciphering what your true ultimate sexual fantasy is- because THAT is the question that will ultimately help you figure out whether you're more into men or women (dick or vagina). If it's the former (men/dick), it's OK- and you will be OK. If anything, you'll be much happier coming to terms with it and accepting that there's nothing wrong with it- and the sooner you do that the easier it will be on you.

Whether you're straight and just like gay porn or bisexual or predominantly gay (decide you like gay porn because it actually represents your ultimate/true fantasy for what you'd like to be doing sexually), chances are your parents and family members will not disown you. In fact, they will almost undoubtedly still love and support you (if not, then to be honest they don't truly love or support you now), your friends will not abandon you (if they do, they were honestly not true friends), and you will finally be able to stop feeling ashamed of or embarrassed by what kind of porn you watch and recognize that it just means that something about watching two guys fuck is hot to you (and guess what, it IS hot and you are FAR from alone in thinking so- hence the success of this site).

So in a nutshell this is what I would suggest to you: give yourself a break, watch whatever kind of porn you want, and don't worry about it's implications for your sexuality. Instead, use the other question to figure that out and once you do, put down the burden of lying to yourself about what DOESN'T turn you on (even if that is women/vagina). Best of luck to you my friend.

Hope that was easier for everyone to read. Sorry for posting it all in one block. Anyone have any comments about the content of what I said instead of just how it was formatted? I'd be more interested to hear that kind of feedback to be honest.
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« Reply #15 on: October 30, 2016, 10:32:14 am »

i dont think so???
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« Reply #16 on: October 30, 2016, 01:51:31 pm »

I would say unequivocally no.  If seeing the male form excites you, but you prefer women for the actual act, by definition that would leave you at bisexual.  You know, like most of the human race, before social conditioning gets to them.
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« Reply #17 on: October 31, 2016, 01:05:54 am »

It depends on where you are in life. If you're still struggling to find your sexual orientation, then yes, it might be possible.
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« Reply #18 on: November 02, 2016, 11:29:44 am »

According to various studies/surveys, over 1/3rd of hetero guys like gay porn.   

Of course, this is a generational thing. As "gay" is more acceptable, more people are willing to try it.   Obviously, older people will be more stuck in their ways, while younger people will be willing to try new things.

There was that survey that showed that over 2/3rd of UK guys under 35yo enjoy cuddling with each other, in a semi-romantic affectionate, non-sexual way (spooning and such).

Of course, there's the rise of "bro-jobs".
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« Reply #19 on: November 04, 2016, 04:12:50 pm »

http://www.pornhub.com/insights/gay-searches-united-states

 police Cheesy fucking insane  Evil

- straight first time is the most popular gay search in the us
- straight guys is the second most viewed gay category

more than 3% of p.hub visitors watch gay porn ....
so more of the percentage of gay people in the us
definitely yes
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