who is the best person to come out to ?
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« on: December 24, 2016, 09:24:02 pm »

I was thinking about this a lot, and I though I should ask someone else

do you think its best to come out to your mom, dad or brothers
or start with straight friends ? they may understand you more
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« Reply #1 on: December 24, 2016, 11:50:18 pm »

When I came out it was to my closest friends first. They were the ones who gave me the support and built my confidence so I could come out to my parents- mom first, then dad. Then my brother.

It can be different depending on who you feel closest to. Go with someone who you feel accepts you for who you are. Once you've got someone on your side, it gets easier.
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« Reply #2 on: December 25, 2016, 01:21:49 am »

Friends you trust enough to tell them and know they'll accept you. If they don't then they're not worthy enough to be your friend.
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« Reply #3 on: December 25, 2016, 02:02:46 am »

I can only agree to that! Best advice ever:
When I came out it was to my closest friends first. They were the ones who gave me the support and built my confidence so I could come out to my parents- mom first, then dad. Then my brother.

It can be different depending on who you feel closest to. Go with someone who you feel accepts you for who you are. Once you've got someone on your side, it gets easier.
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« Reply #4 on: December 25, 2016, 07:20:00 am »

My apologies for the annoying use of quotes - but I wanted to write my own answer but felt this one already captured and reflects the way I felt..

I can only agree to that! Best advice ever:
When I came out it was to my closest friends first. They were the ones who gave me the support and built my confidence so I could come out to my parents- mom first, then dad. Then my brother.

It can be different depending on who you feel closest to. Go with someone who you feel accepts you for who you are. Once you've got someone on your side, it gets easier.
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« Reply #5 on: December 25, 2016, 11:32:18 pm »

I first came out to my female cousin, then to 2 of my closest female friends - all were supportive.

I don't know why, but I feel like opening up to females in general is easier. I can't really explain it, but I just don't feel awkward telling them that. I'd feel very uncomfortable talking 1-on-1 with some of my straight, male friends because I wouldn't really believe they'd understand me. That's why I have never told any of my guy friends that's I'm gay. I'd recommend telling a close female friend/cousin/aunt if you have any.
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« Reply #6 on: December 26, 2016, 04:59:22 am »

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« Reply #7 on: December 26, 2016, 05:26:31 am »

A gay sibling is always a great option...if you have one, that is.
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« Reply #8 on: December 26, 2016, 10:37:25 am »

I first came out to a female close friend...Not sure why, but I find coming out to females easier. I did come out to several straight guy friends eventually, but yeah I started with a female close friend first.

I don't know abt you but in my community, tolerance towards LGBT is still very low...So coming out to a family member is not an option to me since most of them won't accept it.
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« Reply #9 on: December 26, 2016, 01:27:54 pm »

I think to your closest friend
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« Reply #10 on: December 26, 2016, 04:57:13 pm »

Yourself.

Then your hag.  Cheesy
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« Reply #11 on: January 01, 2017, 07:34:43 am »

There is no one answer - it depends on the person.  One person's mom might be totally cool, another might throw you out of the house.  Same with siblings, friends, etc.
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« Reply #12 on: January 06, 2017, 04:16:51 pm »

There is no one answer - it depends on the person.  One person's mom might be totally cool, another might throw you out of the house.  Same with siblings, friends, etc.

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« Reply #13 on: January 09, 2017, 10:16:01 pm »

I chose a cousin close enough to help boost my confidence if she accepted me, but not that close so it wouldn't break me if she didn't... then it was my best friend, then my sis (the person I'm closest to) and then my mom

maybe my "method" is not the best option there but it worked for me. I think a close friend might be the safest choice for you.
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« Reply #14 on: January 22, 2017, 02:09:27 pm »

Best friend
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« Reply #15 on: January 22, 2017, 05:24:13 pm »

Does anyone know you are gay?  I actually think it's better to come out to someone you don't know very well at first.  It helps to get you used to that feeling.
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« Reply #16 on: January 22, 2017, 09:29:31 pm »

I haven't done it so I can't exactly say who's best...
But from what several people have told me, coming out to females is usually much easier than straight males. The latter might lose respect to you far more easier.
Of course, in the end it all depends on the personalities of people. If you know she (or he, if you choose male) is NOT anti-LGBT or does not exhibit homophobic traits, then that might be the best person to do it first. Even better if she/he is an outspoken LGBT supporter.
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« Reply #17 on: January 22, 2017, 10:57:36 pm »

it should be someone who you trust very much, do it only if you are sure to tell
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« Reply #18 on: January 23, 2017, 12:05:51 am »

.. came out to my best friend and he understood and accepted me .. Only the ones closes to me knows who I am.  Cool
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« Reply #19 on: January 23, 2017, 06:41:43 pm »

While of course nobody can answer this for you, I can tell you about my situation.
I first came out to a friend who was bi that had moved away when we were talking on the phone. He said something about knowing he makes me uncomfortable and I told him that I myself had played with other guys.

Then in college I was taking adderall with a friend, and after being up all night talking, I came out to him. He was pretty cool about it, though we lost touch when I left that school.

When some guy was threatening me, I told my best friend. He was only upset that I didn't tell him earlier. (Difficult to do if somebody uses the term faggot a lot. Still my best friend to this day, years later).

When I was depressed after some relationship issues, I came out to my dad. I told him I would rather kill myself than be gay, but that I thought I was bi. He told me he loves me no matter what. I'm prettttyy damn gay ha.

Then I came out to my oldest brother, then my sisters, then finally my mom. I had a hard time trusting my mom with the "secret" because she is an alcoholic with the tendency to gossip or throw things in your face.

In the end, with my best friends and family are on my side, I felt comfortable admitting I'm gay.
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