A few months away from 35 years in a relationship destined to last a lifetime--what once was all the joy in looking forward to sharing so many wonderful years together, has now become gloom in looking ahead to the much too quickly approaching time when there won’t be any moments shared together.
Sometime in the last 8 years or so is when I recall first hearing him projecting how much time he had--6 years.
Strange or not, I never gave any real or serious thoughts to a time when he would no longer be there, always instead seeing that as being too far ahead to think about--more, that thinking about it was depressing enough.
Over the years that projected number whittled down to 2 years--a countdown that started a couple of years ago. Hearing that is when I started listening
Soon thereafter I began witnessing things, and seeing things--changes in physical mobility--things that jarred me, realizing these things were not going to go away
, and more likely just the first of many changes to come.
About a week ago, the plural “years” was replaced, and the first mention of the singular “year”--which brought about a new sense of urgency and action…
A reality that I still find difficult to believe--I’ll be joining him at his next appointment with his doctor. Along with health details and issues, I plan to address, and hopefully settle the matters regarding power of attorney
, and my rights (or lack thereof) as a non-family
Bobby is the only reason I’m in such a dream relationship. My many needs and wants fulfilled. Outside of asking, the only thing required of me is to provide the details to Bobby, who then makes it all happen!
Liking to think that I’m one who looks at the positives first, assessing any negatives later, I now see the consequences of blindly living my catered life. Knowing that there is no "money tree" keeping things afloat, and behind it all is the constant and ongoing processing of expenses, assets--all of that other junk that I haven’t dealt with in years, and never
anything on the level of that which Bobby deals with.
I am aware of the existence of things such numerous accounts, debts, assets, property titles, etc.--but clueless as to what needs doing, regarding them.
With quite a bit at stake in this empire he’s worked hard to build, intended to cover me to the end, pointing out where he’s stashed the “living trust” stuff is far short of all I need to know, and there’s definitely a whole lot more he’ll have to pass on to me. (As for the “living trust”--I couldn’t say with 100% certainty that I know where it is at this very moment…or what I’m supposed to do with it!)
In closing, and not settled on the specific topic of this post, or its point--outside of sharing a little bit more about us, it would be great to get an idea of what needs to be done, what possibly to expect, or anything else others might have experienced, or even just thought, looking at a relationship approaching its twilight.
More bits and previous forum topics and posts…
My “Live and Die Guy”https://forum.gaytorrent.ru/index.php?topic=45569.msg241254#msg241254
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