When I came out, nobody had a clue about me being gay. Everyone just assumed I was a chick magnet
Then one day after I had had enough of the lie's, I just snapped.
Right in the locker room after football practice. Everybody just looked at me and thought I was joking. Then one of the guys made comment about me looking at his junk. I replied that I wasn't attracted to tiny peters and was more attracted to my friend Sams Pussy punisher.
Everybody just laughed and nobody seemed to take me serious. Then after we all got dressed and we were walking to our cars, the guys started asking me if I was serious?
When dead silence hit, that was when I figured they finally got what I was saying.
The next 2 practices were kind of quite and no one said much.
But then the curiosity started coming out and I was getting all kinds of questions. Everything from how I knew?, to what I ate that made me gay. It was weird.
But I eventually went on a date with a couple of the guys and had a blast. Sam turned out to be everything I had knew he was. The only person in my entire friends circle that had a problem was a little quite friend who was a bookworm. He became very antigay towards me and refused to hang out or even be seen talking to me.
Several years later, in college, the bookworm approached me and told me he was bisexual and that he was married and had a couple of kids.
He asked if we might go out for drinks one night? My reply was swift and to the point. "Sorry, but I don't hang around lying, deceitful people who are uglier on the inside than on the outside." Then I walked away.
So no, I really didn't loose any friends from coming out. I did gain a few fuck buddies.
BUT!!!! I was never teased about being a faggot or called feminine. In fact, I was the guy who looked like the last person on earth that you wanted to piss off.
Many of my friends who were feminine and gay, or as they called it "fabulously flaming", they lost lots of friends and family.
Which never made sense to me. They looked and acted gay always. You would have to be blind and deaf to not know they were gay. So why get all upset when they say their gay?
I came out in 1980