How do I not come off as rude when I am not interested in socializing with sb?
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« on: September 08, 2017, 05:41:42 pm »


How do I not come off as rude when I am not interested in socializing with someone?


Have you ever been in such a situation?

What did you do?

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« Reply #1 on: September 09, 2017, 02:18:39 pm »

Do you mean being rude or hurting someone's feelings?

Letting someone know that while they are interested in hanging out with you that you aren't interested in hanging out with them is going to hurt their feelings.  That's the only option.

Being polite about it, be honest and forthright.  Tell them you are not interested without insulting or belittling them in any way.  Giving mixed messages hoping that they will catch on without you having to be truthful is more hurtful in the long term.
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« Reply #2 on: September 23, 2017, 12:38:39 am »

Do you mean being rude or hurting someone's feelings?

Letting someone know that while they are interested in hanging out with you that you aren't interested in hanging out with them is going to hurt their feelings.  That's the only option.

Being polite about it, be honest and forthright.  Tell them you are not interested without insulting or belittling them in any way.  Giving mixed messages hoping that they will catch on without you having to be truthful is more hurtful in the long term.

I wanted to cover both cases you mention in your question..

Interesting hints in your following two paragraphs!

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« Reply #3 on: September 24, 2017, 12:35:54 pm »

Depends on the setting

In a once off setting ie friend's birthday party, work function, just be polite, maintain a bit of chit chat, after a few minutes, initiate a conversation with another person and move away

A friend/acquaintance that you do not like to hang out with, "busy" to all invitations to one to one meetings, passive communication when met as a group ("yes" "wow really" answers, do not fuel the conversation), again still be polite about it

If it's someone you not attracted to but hoping to go further with you, if they make their intentions clear, be direct as well, explain that you are not interested in anything more than friends. If you feel like they want to take things further are you are not interested, it helps mentioning you are interested in someone you recently met, or suggesting a feature that you are attracted to but that person lacks perhaps?
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« Reply #4 on: October 01, 2017, 12:57:22 pm »

Depends on the setting

In a once off setting ie friend's birthday party, work function, just be polite, maintain a bit of chit chat, after a few minutes, initiate a conversation with another person and move away

A friend/acquaintance that you do not like to hang out with, "busy" to all invitations to one to one meetings, passive communication when met as a group ("yes" "wow really" answers, do not fuel the conversation), again still be polite about it

If it's someone you not attracted to but hoping to go further with you, if they make their intentions clear, be direct as well, explain that you are not interested in anything more than friends. If you feel like they want to take things further are you are not interested, it helps mentioning you are interested in someone you recently met, or suggesting a feature that you are attracted to but that person lacks perhaps?

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