My current partner is emotionally distant. He doesn't share his Instagram with me, he hides his phone from me, and he seems rather quiet. He doesn't want to meet more than once a week, and he admitted to me that in the past, his ex had been physically/emotionally abusive which explains why he's hesitant to trust easily.What should I do about this situation? I like him a lot, but I don't like how insecure and "clingy" he makes me feel. How do you guys deal with emotionally distant/emotionally unavailable guys?
You should gradually earn/build back his trust..
I had the similar experience but on the opposite side.True, but actualy you shouldn't do anything for make him trust you, because it can be not really sincrete, it can be harmful. Just be yourself, just tell him the truth. It's important not to make things worse, so honesty is the best policy. Probably he's trying to trust you, he needs time for this.
It's okay to be a little distant at first. But please.I had a similar problem. My ex's ex was a stalker and I was getting shit from it. I just wanted to have answers like "when you will call?" or "when can you give me this info?" and he would consider it being pushy, stalking and even abusing. I don't know how long and how close you and your partner are but please. If it makes you insecure... just stop. The point that he's making - that he had an abusive ex, doesn't really excuse him from being an asshole. And I think he is one if he makes you feel liek that. And I know you will deny it : ) I would do it too and stand in his defence, but let's face it. Ask yourself some real questions and be 100% honest with yourself, and if you really will be you will see I am right. Why would you be the one to lick his ass and earn his trust ? Did you do something to lose it ? Did you ? You will live like that with him for what period ? Always treating like an egg and trying not to cross the line. You want to continue a relationship as fragile as that? He will not break up with you cause he knows no one else will put up with a bullshit like that. But it's your life, I'm just advising as an older fella with probably much more experience in this field.
The point that he's making - that he had an abusive ex, doesn't really excuse him from being an asshole.