When I say love I donâ€™t mean sexual attraction. I mean real loveâ€”the kind we see in movies: emotional, head over heels, romantic, sensually stimulating kind of love.
Can this type of emotion exist among straight and gay or not males?
Personally I think it can, but too often society doesnâ€™t know what to call it.
Falling in love with a person has nothing to do with sexual feelings. Itâ€™s a heart-to-heart, soulful experience, but as guys we associate the two. We donâ€™t know how to describe it otherwise.
Men donâ€™t have the same contact rules as women do. Weâ€™re often afraid to show any kind of close connection with another guyâ€”even gay guys. In my experience itâ€™s because we always assume the other will think we fancy them, so instead of risking it weâ€™d rather keep a safe distance.
I see male friendships everywhere and theyâ€™re amazing. There is a brotherhood that seems to be tighter than family sometimes, but for whatever reason our culture made it into something else. So when a straight guy starts to have a close bond with a gay man, his first instinct is to shut it off: â€śDoes this mean Iâ€™m gay?â€ť heâ€™ll ask himself.
When it comes to love, the whole gay and straight thing doesnâ€™t matter. Love is love no matter where it comes from; and trust me itâ€™s better than having no love at all.
Love is something no one can describe. It can happen anywhere, anytime and to anyoneâ€”even to straight/gay friendships.
It is heartbreaking when the man you love wonâ€™t be able to be yours, but at the same time there is much to say about what comes after the fact. If there is always going to be something missing, any kind of life together will quickly die away.
When you fall in love you always need to ask yourself if itâ€™s worth it. Personally when youâ€™re dealing with a man who is straight (and knows it), there needs to be a serious conversation.