The problem is though that for most of the straight women who read these books, as well as for closeted young gay men discovering their identities, fiction purporting to be "gay romance" which is actually a heterosexual woman's fantasy about what it would be like for her to have a cock, with a fake gay male identity and name and a fictional backstory about how they grew up as a gay man, is going to be the primary source of information about what gay men are actually like.
Yes, some women write good gay characters, but why do so many straight women writing "gay romance" have to lie about who they are?
There is a good article here on this question:https://electricliterature.com/why-are-so-many-gay-romance-novels-written-by-straight-women-e1ad2ad2f5c8
"Seeing yourself, whether it’s on the screen or on the page, is a powerful experience. So often, though, for queer people, the options are either super whitewashed or rooted in hurtful stereotypes. In gay romance novels, it’s both, and straight women writers are responsible."
"The author handles her gay characters like dolls, using them to act out her desires. She shoves the rubber faces together and smudges them against one another: Now kiss. The characters, who are labeled as gay, are only fantasies — -straight women’s fantasies, shared with an audience of straight women. The first time I read a novel like this, from its sex scenes to its deep, emotional dialog, all I could think was, Is this what we are to you?"
But it is worse than that, because so many young gay men reading this shit think that is what gay men ARE like. There is nothing in the book information or online that tells you that this was actually written by a straight women.
I remember when Josh Lanyon finally publicly admitted that she is a woman how upset a lot of her young gay male fans were.