Is it okay to say "Whites only" on tinder/grindr profile?
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« on: February 14, 2018, 10:01:06 pm »

I have been through many dating profiles which say things like "no rice, no spice" or straight-up "whites only."

It felt weird, but I get it. People get to decide who they want to date, and it's not a bad idea to be straightforward about it. Personally I would say that it's a good idea to be open to at least dating outside your comfort zone, which could lead to pleasant surprises. Some friends think that it's racist, and it bothers me when I am in a town/city where there are many profiles like that.

On the other hand, I have been on dates and found that I was fetishised because of my race. Which was great  Cheers

How do you feel about this?
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« Reply #1 on: February 15, 2018, 03:46:44 am »

Lets see... people are more or less free to say whatever the hell they want on social media. So if they want to point out that they only want white dick and risk being framed as a racist or something that is perfectly okay in terms of their freedoms. Being direct is better than to lead people on and if you're the type that likes a specific ethnicity more than others then you will naturally choose to pursue them in a in-person situation anyways.

In the frame of "okay" in terms of what it means socially, then the answer is no, its not okay. Homosexuals are already persecuted by the societies they live in, its ironic that we go out of our way to do even more to one another.

My approach is what everyone else already does on apps like that, if I'm not interested in someone I don't reply. If they're insistent then instead of simply ignoring them I politely explain that I'm not interested. It seems like the hardest thing for gay guys to do on these apps is to actually say "no". Its something about not hurting anyone's feelings but to me it seems to be much worse to unintentionally lead someone on because you couldn't just say what you're really thinking.
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« Reply #2 on: February 15, 2018, 04:32:47 am »

Good god, people say everything on social media stuff.

But to keep from being labeled a fanatical racist just say prefer whites.  Not "whites only". That way you come off as just a little racist not full blown Hitleresk.
Plenty of ads have blacks preferred, Asians preferred. Athletic preferred.
I did it and put six pack required. I didn't want some little hungry thing messing with me and not into chubs or people who look like they eat at a fast food restaurant 24/7.

So, to each his own.
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« Reply #3 on: February 17, 2018, 03:25:40 am »

Might be better to say something like "I'm especially attracted to pale skin/blond hair/blue eyes/whatever" ... voice the preference in a less brash & racist way.  That way you're voicing a physical preference but keeping your options open.
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« Reply #4 on: February 18, 2018, 04:56:46 pm »

A lot of hot guys hate racists, so I would avoid putting anything potentially racist (including "white only") in your profile. You only have so many characters, which you should expend on writing other things i.e. what your personality is like.
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« Reply #5 on: February 19, 2018, 05:58:25 pm »

Everyone has their own preferences, but I think using the term "whites only" does come across a little racist.  Maybe use the phrase "prefer men of caucasian descent" instead.
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« Reply #6 on: February 20, 2018, 08:11:32 am »

Personally I just think it's dumb. Why limit yourself to one kind of guy? We all have a type or types of guys we are generally more attracted to, but better to just say thanks but not thanks or don't reply when someone you're not interested in writes.

Also, what I waste of characters on your profile. Better to write what you actually want instead of what you don't.
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« Reply #7 on: February 20, 2018, 02:39:48 pm »

So the jist of the replies is, have your preference, but don't say it because that would racist. 

I'm wondering if the same people would say the same thing if a black guy said: "black only".   

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« Reply #8 on: February 20, 2018, 04:57:36 pm »

So the jist of the replies is, have your preference, but don't say it because that would racist. 

I'm wondering if the same people would say the same thing if a black guy said: "black only".   



I wouldn't because I would think of a history of repression and violence there and think that a black gay person might feel safer with another black guy and there isn't history of black men oppressing white men. I don't think the same applies to white men, just like the same things don't apply to straight people as they do gay people. I don't know if I'm explaining it well. I would think it was a shame that the black guy was limiting himself, just like a would the white gay guy.

However I'm just now remembering that there are in fact other races! So thinking a step further I would think that was shitty too. Maybe not as shitty (I'm not black so I would not pretend I would automatically know all the reasons for him saying "black only") but still kinda shitty towards asians etc.
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« Reply #9 on: February 21, 2018, 10:49:49 am »

It is Okay but recommend to use other words to express you are attracted to white people. Although it is your right to choose what you like sometimes, we have to consider the situation.
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« Reply #10 on: February 22, 2018, 03:18:07 pm »

That's really racist. Not gonna argue about it, but if you were a black guy, you would totally think that's very racist.

But most people are used to being racist without realizing it. So... you can choose that point of view as well.  Crazy?
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« Reply #11 on: Yesterday at 08:19:32 am »

So the jist of the replies is, have your preference, but don't say it because that would racist. 

I'm wondering if the same people would say the same thing if a black guy said: "black only".   



I wouldn't because I would think of a history of repression and violence there and think that a black gay person might feel safer with another black guy and there isn't history of black men oppressing white men. I don't think the same applies to white men, just like the same things don't apply to straight people as they do gay people. I don't know if I'm explaining it well. I would think it was a shame that the black guy was limiting himself, just like a would the white gay guy.

However I'm just now remembering that there are in fact other races! So thinking a step further I would think that was shitty too. Maybe not as shitty (I'm not black so I would not pretend I would automatically know all the reasons for him saying "black only") but still kinda shitty towards asians etc.


What about white farmers in Africa?   

What about Korean shop owners across the US?

I've been mugged twice, by black guys. 

Looking at statistics,  blacks really aren't the victims. 
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