I can't stay erect during intercourse
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« on: September 30, 2018, 09:36:21 pm »

Hi all!
This topic may be classic and I need some advice
Normally, I can easily got erection in the morning after waking up, when i think about sex or when i try to masterbate. It's all okay. My dick is in a good size and I'm confident about it. I want to be the top
But when I try to put it into the butt hole, It gets weaker and weaker then went off. ( plz don't laugh, it's just sad) . Since that, I'm so nervous whenever I have sex, only 1 time sucessful but It was short and I didn't feel so good.
Should i take some kind of pill to help that? Or any tips and tricks. Thanks
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« Reply #1 on: October 01, 2018, 07:57:04 am »

Hi all!
This topic may be classic and I need some advice
Normally, I can easily got erection in the morning after waking up, when i think about sex or when i try to masterbate. It's all okay. My dick is in a good size and I'm confident about it. I want to be the top
But when I try to put it into the butt hole, It gets weaker and weaker then went off. ( plz don't laugh, it's just sad) . Since that, I'm so nervous whenever I have sex, only 1 time sucessful but It was short and I didn't feel so good.
Should i take some kind of pill to help that? Or any tips and tricks. Thanks


I get often hard (hands free) when my husband fucks me. I have never, ever toped anyone, so i dont know about that. Maybe you, just think to mutch?
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« Reply #2 on: October 01, 2018, 09:48:18 am »

Hi ,
i have the same issue alot of times. But i get soft because my mind is so busy thinking " oh god , dont turn soft" or " i hope i am a good top "
i belive its all the pressure in our heads that lets the fun part go away.
i try to relax myself myself and just have fun. Your only human and not a fucking maschine. It hapends. Just try to take the pressure ( that only you put on yourself by the way not the bottom) away.

greetz Nick
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« Reply #3 on: October 01, 2018, 01:57:32 pm »

Hi ,
i have the same issue alot of times. But i get soft because my mind is so busy thinking " oh god , dont turn soft" or " i hope i am a good top "
i belive its all the pressure in our heads that lets the fun part go away.
i try to relax myself myself and just have fun. Your only human and not a fucking maschine. It hapends. Just try to take the pressure ( that only you put on yourself by the way not the bottom) away.

greetz Nick

I total agree. My husband are in that age when you sometimes dont get it up (regardless how horny you are). And its just sex, not the end of the world.

As a Bottom, i often get hard when he fuck me, but often im soft to ejaculation. I often cum hands free in missionary or doggy (our favorite position)
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« Reply #4 on: January 01, 2019, 09:08:20 am »

are you wearing a condom? if so try ultra thin ones and see if they help
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« Reply #5 on: January 11, 2019, 04:21:41 am »

yeah maybe you are over thinking.. just have fun and take your pacing right
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« Reply #6 on: February 16, 2019, 11:04:19 pm »

Hi ,
i have the same issue alot of times. But i get soft because my mind is so busy thinking " oh god , dont turn soft" or " i hope i am a good top "
i belive its all the pressure in our heads that lets the fun part go away.
i try to relax myself myself and just have fun. Your only human and not a fucking maschine. It hapends. Just try to take the pressure ( that only you put on yourself by the way not the bottom) away.

greetz Nick

I total agree. My husband are in that age when you sometimes dont get it up (regardless how horny you are). And its just sex, not the end of the world.

As a Bottom, i often get hard when he fuck me, but often im soft to ejaculation. I often cum hands free in missionary or doggy (our favorite position)

 with love


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« Reply #7 on: February 17, 2019, 03:12:54 am »

I'm having the same problem.
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« Reply #8 on: February 17, 2019, 04:43:23 am »

I'm having the same problem.

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« Reply #9 on: February 18, 2019, 10:15:43 pm »

The blue pill may helpful or a sensual solution may be in order... >Cheesy , massage oil anyone? Grin
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« Reply #10 on: February 20, 2019, 12:50:42 am »

You can start by having bottoms ride you first. That will help with the anxiety. Also, try to use the morning hours to fuck. Have the bottom suck you for 3-4 min then lube him up and fuck.
There are also a lot of natural foods that help. The ancient Chinese and Indian traditional foods have items that help a lot.
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« Reply #11 on: March 08, 2020, 12:26:55 pm »

Try not to overthink things, it's just sex. As long as you both get pleasure, that's all that counts.
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« Reply #12 on: March 29, 2020, 09:57:39 am »

The fact that you can get erections in the morning or during other times is a big indicator that it is a mental rather than physical issue.

It happens far more often than you would think and most men encounter some issue with this at some point in their lives.

If you've tried other things, you can purchase (depending on applicable laws to your area) generic Viagra (Sildenafil) or Cialis (Tadalafil) which are far cheaper than the branded equivalent which would help with the anxiety aspect. Both require sexual arousal to work so bear that in mind. This can help put your mind at ease.

Sildenafil lasts for about 4 hours and Tadalafil has a longer lasting period up to 36 hours.

As always, it's best to consult a doctor or physician before taking any kind of medication.
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« Reply #13 on: May 06, 2020, 06:52:28 am »

I experience the same, getting nervous and try to fuck someone I don't really care about don't help, it's also easier when they are 100% bottom and not versatile, if they are... well, closed, I find it hard to keep it hard. You are not at alone, it's pure stress and nothing else.
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« Reply #14 on: June 20, 2020, 02:13:45 pm »


The fact that you can get erections in the morning or during other times is a big indicator that it is a mental rather than physical issue.

It happens far more often than you would think and most men encounter some issue with this at some point in their lives.

If you've tried other things, you can purchase (depending on applicable laws to your area) generic Viagra (Sildenafil) or Cialis (Tadalafil) which are far cheaper than the branded equivalent which would help with the anxiety aspect. Both require sexual arousal to work so bear that in mind. This can help put your mind at ease.

Sildenafil lasts for about 4 hours and Tadalafil has a longer lasting period up to 36 hours.

As always, it's best to consult a doctor or physician before taking any kind of medication.

Always consult a doctor or physician before taking any kind of medication!


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« Reply #15 on: June 22, 2020, 05:38:38 pm »

Hi all!
This topic may be classic and I need some advice
Normally, I can easily got erection in the morning after waking up, when i think about sex or when i try to masterbate. It's all okay. My dick is in a good size and I'm confident about it. I want to be the top
But when I try to put it into the butt hole, It gets weaker and weaker then went off. ( plz don't laugh, it's just sad) . Since that, I'm so nervous whenever I have sex, only 1 time sucessful but It was short and I didn't feel so good.
Should i take some kind of pill to help that? Or any tips and tricks. Thanks


Hi I should be something psychological if you can get an erection in the morning or on other times then it isn't a functional thing. You should try to talk to your partner about your nervousness and find a way to relax. The pill might make you keep the erecton longer but it wont be a long term solution. You should explain to your partner how nervous you are about beeing on top and work from that
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« Reply #16 on: August 13, 2020, 02:23:48 am »

Erectyle disfunction is a serious problem that can wreck your sexual life. I have it, too. Consult a professional, usually a psychiatrist, they'll refer you further (maybe a sex psychiatrist). There are solutions out there that may help you. Also try bottoming, maybe you'll like it more and realize you prefer to be a bottom.
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« Reply #17 on: August 13, 2020, 05:28:31 am »

I experience the same, getting nervous and try to fuck someone I don't really care about don't help, it's also easier when they are 100% bottom and not versatile, if they are... well, closed, I find it hard to keep it hard. You are not at alone, it's pure stress and nothing else.

If the hole is too tight and closed, try opening that hole up a bit so you can get your dick in.  This is why men with larger penises are often better lovers, because they have to get the bottom to relax mentally and physically before sticking their dick in or it won't go in at all or will at least the hole will be too tight.  They are also necessarily concerned about hurting the bottom, so they don't rush and let the bottom control the pace.  They know the bottom needs to enjoy the sex in order to be relaxed.

A guy with an average or smaller penis will sometimes be successful just poking around without sufficient foreplay but that's not much fun for the bottom.  

For a good example,  watch Cade Maddox.  His penis is not huge but it is large enough that he has to have skilz. 
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« Reply #18 on: August 21, 2020, 12:56:23 pm »

I share your pain.  While I do bottom a lot, there are times I want to top.  Even when I'm not over-hyping myself or under any pressure, I still start going soft when I reach the butt.  Oftentimes, I just stuff the head and slow-quick my way in before I go soft.  That usually does it for me.  Not exactly the best way, though; I'm lucky my top buddy is cool with me topping him.  lol

Though recently I was in a threesome with my top buddy and successfully fucked the bottom.  Of course, that was after I came 15 minutes ago.  I'm not sure if that helped or because of how hot the whole situation was since I rarely do threesomes.
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« Reply #19 on: September 12, 2020, 02:42:19 am »

Take viagra or cialis
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