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« Reply #20 on: September 27, 2019, 07:46:40 pm »


I had a similar experience in a previous relationships. One guy said that he didn't think porn should be used in a healthy relationship, so I threw all mine out only to find he had an extensive collection hidden away on his PC.

In another relationship I admitted to watching porn and was scolded for it, as the ex at the time believed it was wrong for me to even look at someone else, and made me feel guilty, so i ended up deleting 2TB of porn to keep him happy, but as it turned out he too watched porn secretly behind my back.


You know, in reference to your last two ex's..... While I did do it once while I was with my ex, overall, the need for porn was almost non-existent. Why? Because the love I had for that person was so very strong, and  I was very satisfied with him because I loved him. So, not watching porn really wasn't a "protest," or some kind of "penance," or moral thing.. It was just a progression of the love I had for that individual.

However, today....... I think we're all dealing with a very different breed of people.
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« Reply #21 on: September 29, 2019, 12:28:54 pm »

Yeah it's perfectly fine as long as you are both honest and open about it.

My partner and myself have an extensive collection of porn, we share it, and openly discuss porn films and actors etc. We quite often send each porn pics and vids daily. It's quite hot knowing what turns your partner on and knowing it gets them off. Luckily we both roughly have the same taste in men, kinks and fetishes so it works out good for the both of us  Cheesy

Sometimes we watch it together, or sometimes one of us will be watching it and we just end up having sex anyway, or sometimes I will even surprise my partner by putting on a little porn show of my own with toys and gear and then he just ends up joining in Grin

Sounds really hot!
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« Reply #22 on: September 29, 2019, 02:23:34 pm »

Sounds really hot!

Oh it definitely is...well the hubby seems to think so  Cheesy
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« Reply #23 on: October 07, 2019, 06:14:43 pm »

My partner and I have done it. I do suggest that you discuss watching porn with you partner, so that there is an understanding of when it's ok to watch, how long is ok, and how often ok.
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« Reply #24 on: October 12, 2019, 03:14:31 pm »

Of course watching porn is ok. As long it's not a substitute for sex with your partner.
Even if you have a sex life with your partner it's important to have sex with yourself.
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« Reply #25 on: October 19, 2019, 01:09:00 am »

I'm OK with it, I even watched porno with exs as a turn on, it worked well but not every one of them was into that.
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« Reply #26 on: October 22, 2019, 10:28:08 am »

it all depends on your relationship. Smiley everyone is different.
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« Reply #27 on: October 23, 2019, 10:01:17 am »

Of course it's ok!
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« Reply #28 on: October 29, 2019, 08:42:13 am »

I think there's nothing wrong with it either as long as your sex life as a couple is healthy also.

Based on previous experiences, I view it as a red flag if the person I'm with equates porn as cheating.
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« Reply #29 on: November 01, 2019, 07:17:52 am »

I don't think I would be with someone who flat out forbid me from watching porn.
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« Reply #30 on: November 01, 2019, 10:58:43 am »

I don't think I would be with someone who flat out forbid me from watching porn.

It's a sticky situation. 'Cause you can look at it in two ways. Is he trying to control you? Does he think you'll cheat if you watch it? Or does he think he's not enough when you watch it? So many different ways.... But, like I've said earlier (I think), if I really loved the person I'm with, I naturally don't have the desire to watch porn. Unless of course, I'm not getting it enough from him, and that would be a discussion we'd need to have.
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« Reply #31 on: November 02, 2019, 12:02:21 am »

I don't think porn is bad, is a fun way to get ideas and to get into the mood.

Once you two get it going, don't watch the porn, watch your partner (or watch it in discreet glances, I myself get bored with doggie style as I need to watch my partner's face, not his back)
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« Reply #32 on: November 17, 2019, 02:16:39 am »

I think it's perfectly OK single or as a couple
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« Reply #33 on: November 17, 2019, 04:46:42 am »

My first (long-term) partner didn't like porn at all--he said it was "boring" and "useless."  But I was much less experienced than he was, and watched porn (on my own) as an instructional tool.  I know that what I learned from these "training films" improved our sex life and our relationship.
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« Reply #34 on: May 08, 2020, 09:14:30 am »

Of course it's ok. My partner and I do it very often.
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« Reply #35 on: May 09, 2020, 05:43:05 pm »

I don't think I would be with someone who flat out forbid me from watching porn.

It's a sticky situation. 'Cause you can look at it in two ways. Is he trying to control you? Does he think you'll cheat if you watch it? Or does he think he's not enough when you watch it? So many different ways.... But, like I've said earlier (I think), if I really loved the person I'm with, I naturally don't have the desire to watch porn. Unless of course, I'm not getting it enough from him, and that would be a discussion we'd need to have.

That's the point: Not watching porn is NOT about loving your partner. It's all about sex impulses, fantasies, desires...

For an exemple: we all might have a fantasy that turn us on when it's just a fantasy, but we might not be that excited to (or we simply can't) make it happen (like public spaces, beach, sex with your teacher, boss, whatever). And watching porn may bring these fantasies alive, make you experience it... something like that.
When you're on a relationship, some fantasies just don't disappear, and maybe your partner is not into that thing you wanna do... That's why I think it's a helthy thing to do when you do it ocasionaly. It's a moment for your own, your own fantasies, it also kinda feed your creativity a little bit..

The problem beggins, as mentioned before by a lot of users here, when you're not attracted that much to your partner. You find in porn the best scape to satisfy yourself and keep the relationship going. I actually don't think it's a problem by itself... to me, the problem is: does it bother you? Why do you run for porn instead of having all that sex coming true with your partner? That's something people must think of. Sometimes the person you love is not the person who drives you crazy... but how much are you ok with it? It's fine if your husband is not the best sex you ever had, but no fun at all?...

Love is the base for a great relationship, but it'snt everything. Sex is as important as love, and if there's not a match on it, maybe you should go find it with someone else.

Hope it helps Wink
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