I'm a 22 year old guy from Belgium. I've been seeing a guy for 9 months now, he's 24 and a Muslim.
We haven't had any sexual intercourse or foreplay (not because of the circumcision tho').
He says he finds foreskin and uncircumcised penises unclean and 'I won't get any' from him if I'm uncircumcised.
He doesn't ask me to but more so states his opinion. He says he doesn't ask for sex but we both know sex is an important part of a relationship. He says it doesn't mean I can't give anything to him.
Can any of you give me some advice?
Do you have any experience with a circumcision during adulthood?
How about the loss of sensitivity?
Don't do it unless there is a good medical reason for it and even then, the less that is cut away, the better. For instance, if your foreskin is so tight that erections are painful, it's not necessary to get a complete circumcision.
There are definitely risks involved and if your penis functions fine now, it won't function any better after circumcision and may not function as well. At best
, you would lose a LOT of very sensitive foreskin with lots of nerves, so you would have decreased sensation and pleasure. Some men even try to restore their circumcised foreskin by progressively stretching it.
Both cut and uncut penises will be "unclean" if they are not kept clean. Uncut penises have more skin to produce smegma and the folds of the foreskin keep the smegma from rubbing off on underclothing so the uncircumcised penises generally need to be washed more often to be kept as clean. I prefer uncircumcised penises but a dirty penis, cut or uncut, is a definite turn off for me. I don't like dirty asses, either, but I can go either way with dirty armpits, depending on the man's natural body odor. However, some men like dirty penises, dirty asses, etc. But it sounds like he thinks your uncut penis is "unclean" not because it is physically dirty but as a matter of principle, perhaps based in religion.
You didn't ask for relationship advice, but since you are both in your 20s and have been dating for 9 months, it seems a bit unusual that you have not had sex or even foreplay yet. At least in theory, he doesn't want to blow you but wouldn't mind being blown. (The circumcision issue may not be the entire reason.) He does not like and will not accept your penis the way it is. All three of those facts seem to indicate that your relationship is at best one of friendship and is not destined to be a happy romantic relationship.