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« on: December 08, 2012, 04:01:20 pm »

You are walking on the street, when you turn your head around and see some gorgeous guy. When you are getting closer, he turns his head to look at you as well and that moment stands still in your memory.

This is a very common scenario, but it's heavily risky to make a step toward it. So, if you talk to him, you draw attention; additionally, you don't know with full certainty if he is interested in you.

How do you react in situations like this? That spark that lights up, when you see some great looking stranger in the street?
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« Reply #1 on: December 08, 2012, 05:05:34 pm »

I see good-looking guys everywhere (not just in the street). So, the situation you described is indeed quite common.
I'm a sociable guy and I can easily start up conversations with total strangers (men, women, gay, straight, whatever) and people respond very well to me.
But I would not attempt to talk to a stranger in the street just because he's good-looking. A bar, a club, a house are much more preferable places. The reason is because the other person feels he has options: to respond to you or ignore you, to be friendly or indifferent. This thing works instantly and subconsciously, and once he feels he has options, he relaxes and there's no reason for him to be indifferent or adversarial. But a total stranger (however good-looking) talking to you in the street, offers you little alternative but to ignore him or flee. For all you know, he could be a creep, a stalker, a gay-basher or worse. Of course, you could have missed a great opportunity, but then again you could have saved yourself from a lot of trouble.
Besides, as I said, in my opinion, there are great-looking guys everywhere.
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« Reply #2 on: December 08, 2012, 05:15:57 pm »

I wouldn't try to start a conversation..
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« Reply #3 on: December 08, 2012, 05:35:30 pm »

@Dax, I don't visit gay clubs, which automatically narrows my options down to the head of a pin. So, in your opinion, it's very rare that both parties will respond to each other in a situation like this, mainly because we are playing with possibilities?

@imDutch, which is why I wonder. Why wouldn't you proceed with it? Would you say that you are not as inclined or you've never seen such a worthy case thus far?
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« Reply #4 on: December 08, 2012, 05:45:14 pm »

I don't often visit gay clubs either. I was talking about bars and clubs in general. Gay people frequent non-gay-specific establishments too. That doesn't narrow things down at all. Yes, I do think it's very rare that both parties will respond to each other in a situation as the one you described. It's not impossible though. But I believe that most people would avoid a total stranger in the street.
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« Reply #5 on: December 08, 2012, 06:08:09 pm »

Oh, great, that's another issue I wanted discussed:

So, how do you come out to someone in an environment that it's not nearly and officially gay-friendly?
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« Reply #6 on: December 08, 2012, 06:23:49 pm »

@imDutch, which is why I wonder. Why wouldn't you proceed with it? Would you say that you are not as inclined or you've never seen such a worthy case thus far?
Because there's a very little chance that the guy is gay/bisexual. Imagine that he's straight. Wouldn't that be embarrassing?
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« Reply #7 on: December 08, 2012, 06:37:59 pm »

@Amazonios: I don't think there's a golden rule for that. I believe every gay guy has to find his own way when and if he decides to come out to his family, friends, workplace etc. I also believe that non-aggressive ways work for the best. Everyone who knows me personally knows that I'm gay and no one has a problem with that. On the contrary, I've got many precious friends most of whom are straight. Take into account that I've been living with my partner for the last seven years and both our families are really happy about us. And they're not extra-progressive hippies or something (hehe!) My mother and my "mother-in-law" are deeply religious persons. Maybe I was lucky, but I think it was probably due to my approach. I'd let people know me first. When I meet someone for the first time, I don't go throwing "I'm gay and I'm proud!" at his/her face. Without hiding anything or implying otherwise, I give them some time to get to know me first and, when I feel the time is ripe, I make a comment such as "My partner and I..." No one seems to care. My experience proved to me that this is the best approach towards not-so-progressive people and they seem to appreciate that. But as I said, every situation is different, and each gay guy has to find the way he thinks it's best for him.
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« Reply #8 on: December 08, 2012, 07:00:14 pm »

You are walking on the street, when you turn your head around and see some gorgeous guy. When you are getting closer, he turns his head to look at you as well and that moment stands still in your memory.

This is a very common scenario, but it's heavily risky to make a step toward it. So, if you talk to him, you draw attention; additionally, you don't know with full certainty if he is interested in you.

How do you react in situations like this? That spark that lights up, when you see some great looking stranger in the street?

Well let's see Amaz. Like all the polite moles I generally, like imD, don't start the discussion after a glance. If interested I return the glance for a moment which is better not longer than 2 secs and a mild smile à La Gioconda. I keep then myself available to be buttonholed  Azn
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« Reply #9 on: December 08, 2012, 07:51:50 pm »

@imDutch, of course it would be embarassing. I see how you would act then, thanks Wink

@Dax, I didn't mean to display a coming-out issue, I come out only to those I want (of course, my mother happened to find out, accidentally, by some messages in my inbox). It's not like I'm cool with it nor that I am not cool with it. I prefer to keep a balance and always behave in the same way you do. Also, the way you described yours sounds ideal Smiley
So, back on topic, if you are in a bar that's not gay-friendly, how do you reveal your intentions to someone? Don't we recycle the imDutch's point of view that it may be embarassing if this guy ain't interested in you or he is not either gay or bisexual? In other words, how can you tell if someone is into you, without having to exchange the classical nod of let's go to the bathroom?

@agis, right, that way of managing a situation like this sounds promising, thanks for your input Smiley
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« Reply #10 on: December 08, 2012, 08:55:45 pm »

OK, let's imagine that you're in a bar and you have just met someone that hasn't displayed any behavior indicative of his interest (or lack thereof) in you. You could start up a conversation about anything. Music is a good topic. Or movies, TV series, etc. As the conversation progresses, you could throw a comment such as: "My ex-boyfriend used to say..." or "My ex-boyfriend used to drag me to this kind of movies". His reaction to that comment would be revealing of his interest in you (or not). It doesn't have to be embarrassing. If your statement is in the most casual manner, you could easily change topics in case you don't see the reaction you were hoping for. Besides, assuming the conversation was interesting up to that point for both of you, there's no reason for any of you to stop it there. Either way, you manage to find his intentions AND have a good conversation.
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« Reply #11 on: December 08, 2012, 10:47:10 pm »

Hmm depends on the look, is he glancing just by casually, is he surprised, is he eating you with his eyes in a sec... that would basically tell me if how I should act back... well if you want to find if the cute guy in the straight bar is gay or not and you can't read body language well... just drop the "that guy over there looks gay" and see where that leads you  Evil mwhahah, but for what my friends tell me Dutch people do are more relaxed about it, or am I entering the sterotyping universe again... Dorothy let's go home. with love
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« Reply #12 on: December 09, 2012, 10:39:44 am »

@agis, right, that way of managing a situation like this sounds promising, thanks for your input Smiley

Don't mention it dear  Azn.
The not more than 2 secs duration of your returning glance goes in the same direction of the non aggressive approach Dax has already written about.
This thing has even been  scientifically studied by sociologists, antropologists and stuff but is also one of those few things easy to experiment on our own without particular preliminary needs Smiley
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« Reply #13 on: December 10, 2012, 12:18:10 am »

How do you react in situations like this? That spark that lights up, when you see some great looking stranger in the street?"


Usually people do not want a person who wants them too badly too early that they'd be willing to approach them out of nowhere to say hello. Someone who does that risks being ignored, as the person being approached will believe it shows the person approaching them may be desperate, and that they should wait for someone better.

It also shows the person being approached that this person approaching them may have their emotions too easily triggered by people (hence too easily triggerable by someone else). The contradiction involved in courtship— flaunting your desire while playing hard to get— is too-complicated a task for people passing on the sidewalk.



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