Narcissistic ex wants to be friends again
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« on: July 13, 2019, 10:13:52 am »

What if the narcissistic ex sends a message saying that he truly means it that he would like to be friends again? I haven't replied (and will not reply). The context: We were friends for a decade prior to the relationship (which lasted almost a year), and when we were friends he didn't necessarily exhibit narcissistic traits - all of these manifested themselves after a several months of being a couple: classic love-bombing/hoovering initially, then devaluing, gaslighting, silent treatment, manipulation - basically, the relationship was quite abusive and one-sided. Is it worth it to re-establish a friendship?
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« Reply #1 on: July 14, 2019, 08:59:41 pm »

Hello, in my opinion there is no right or wrong move. It depends on your feelings. If you feel that you can establish a friendship without any sexual undertone and you believe that this friendship would be beneficial for both of you then I don't see a reason why not to pursue it. The other part should also bear the same feelings as well.

Please keep in mind that even a friend can be abusive and/or manupulative in the same manner than a bf does.
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« Reply #2 on: July 19, 2019, 04:33:03 pm »

There is no right or wrong move.   ...except in this case.  Run.  If he contacts you again, just say, "Not interested."  Nothing more than that.  He'll probably try to rope you in, make you feel guilty, pull you into a debate.  "Not interested."

Those types of manipulators have a hard time giving up control, or even perceived control.  Hell, my mother worked with a guy like that who attacked anyone who didn't lick his boots.  Later it turned out he had been seducing boys into sex trafficking for decades, and managed to talk his boyfriend into a murder-suicide pact when he was caught.
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« Reply #3 on: June 22, 2020, 09:16:21 pm »

If you think you can have a relationship like the one you had before ok but my advice at any sing of the same old shit run
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