@lololulu19 said in M2F trans problem:
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To me, they look like normal breasts on a young, adult female.
What's the correct answer ? I feel like this could be an entire gameshow: “Boobs or Moobs”, where contestants have to guess whether they're looking at a pair of women's breasts, or a guy who drinks 10 cans of lager every night.
I have seen the tits of the trans. They have no breast shape, they are just like rounded off pyramids.
Some girls have fairly pyramidal bosoms as well, but who knows ? I guess if your friend's partner is displeased, she can elect to have surgical enhancements.
I know that trans goes to a psychiatrist, and flips from being overly nice to quite nasty and vindictive towards absolute strangers for no reason. Extremely unstable. I think that condition might be called "borderline'?
Yeah, borderline personality disorder (also called emotionally unstable personality disorder) can certainly manifest in this manner. It usually suggests (although not always) that there's been some history of childhood physical or sexual abuse. The disorder makes a person view things in very black-and-white terms, including people, meaning that either you'll be seen as someone on their side for which they'll adore you unendingly; or you'll be regarded like an enemy, and they'll despise you. But their assessment of you can change minute-to-minute. Essentially, they struggle with issues of abandonment, issues of mistrust, and have a fluctuating ability to empathise cognitively with others, while often tending to overly empathise emotionally, which they can weaponise in order to "manipulate" others. This is usually done on the subconscious level, and is a learned behaviour used as a survival mechanism rather than a Machiavellian intent fuelled by a desire to fuck people over, although that is still a common outcome from the perspective of those on the receiving end of this.
The trans has been forcing my friend to alter his life entirely, and he went along with it... but.. the demands kept on piling up, and nothing my friend could do or say seemed to satisfy the trans need to be in 100% control of him.
This sounds like a separate behaviour, as it's not classically how borderlines approach their romantic relationships, which rarely, if ever, end up going the way they want.
It sounds a lot more like narcissistic behaviour, the exact nature of which will depend on (or determine) how she exerts her control over her partner.
Regardless of the specifics, though, it sounds like your friend is in an abusive relationship, which he may need help seeing, and subsequently getting out of.
I think they have either broken up, or are inevitably going to break up soon.
OK. As long as your friend is sure he won't incur any revenge-type behaviour later. If she's the one ending the relationship, that's more encouraging.
If I see what that trans has for genetalia, I will let you know, because you did such a thorough job responding to me.
Don't do this on my account. I don't think you want to put yourself in her crosshairs, by the sounds of it.